Final Lesson: The Encouraging Tongue


Taming the Tongue Conclusion



The tongue can either be deadly or bring life. (Prov 18:21)


IT can be an instrument of healing or a weapon of death.


Both good and evil can come from the same tongue… because the tongue has great power- you make the choice of how you want to operate this tool.


Three effective ways of using a tool


  1. Master it- gain skills to use the tool as you desire so that your tool doesn’t overpower you.
  2. Vision- have a clear vision of the goal you want your tool to help you achieve
  3. Wisdom- must be able to use the tool correctly in order to reach the goal you seek.


How do we do this? We “use the tool of our tongue” properly by bridling it. (James 1:26; James 3:2-3) Exercising control over our tongue means that we are also controlling out emotions, spirit and soul before we talk. Once we talk, our tongue will go in the direction of the heart. That is why Yeshua said that it is not what goes in the mouth that defiles the person but what comes out, because the words from your mouth are a direct reflection of what is in your heart. Your heart represents your spirit man.


Therefore, we need a little bit of restraint in our words.


“The mind of fools is in their mouth, but the mouth of the wise man is in his mind.” (Sirach 21:26).




Restraining the tongue helps us to condition it. It allows us to develop the right patterns of speech as well as the ability to see its negative patterns.


Speech that Builds


HaShem created life with His words. Everything that exist was from a Word. (John


The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life. (Prov 10:11)

The tongue of the wise brings healing. (Prov 12:18)

A soothing tongue is a tree of life. (Prov 15:4)


There is goodness in speaking the right words at the right time.


A man has joy in an apt answer, and how delightful is a timely word! (Prov 15:23)


We are also told by Sirach that not only are we to speak kind words and to tame our tongue from fleshly words, that we are also to use our tongues during crucial times, hard times and when we have to rebuke.


Emotional hurdles- some people shy away from conflict or are unwilling to confront because of fear or timidity or shyness.


  • We should be capable of silence and peace but also be able to speak in the proper time during conflict…this is the true test to see if we have tamed our tongues.


QUESTION: The goal of our speech is edification. Any speech that does not edify is mundane speech. Do you think that this statement is true or false? Why?



A Graceful Tongue – imparting HaShem’s grace whenever you speak.


Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person (Col 4:6)


What this is saying is that our tongue- the speech from our mouths should always use wisdom before speaking so that we will know how to talk to every single person, every single situation, and every single conflict.


A graceful tongue is a wise tongue. A wise tongue means a tamed tongue. A wise tongue is the fruit of the spirit and the fruit of a balanced person’s heart.


A Graceful tongue also has no corrupt talk and only says what is good for building up and brings peace to all those who hear. – Eph 4:29)


Words said with grace show that you are concerned, that you care, you are affectionate and show favor to the person you are speaking with. Even when harsh words need to be said- as in a rebuke- when done with a graceful tongue are digested well- like food seasoned with salt.



  1. Praise and Affection
  2. Correcting with Meekness
  3. Communicating Faith & Joy
  4. Making Peace
  5. Showing Courtesy

Glorifying HaShem with our Tongue




Our call to live for the glory of HaShem should shape every aspect of our life- including speech.


A grateful heart and a thankful tongue will usually issue in a G-d-glorifying life.




  1. Praising HaShem
  2. Thanking HaShem
  3. Calling upon the L-rd
  4. Proclaiming HaShem’s Glory to others
  5. Confessing Yeshua


The tongue is not simply a mischievous nuisance that gets us into trouble; it is a gift from G-d of tremendous power and nobility.


Conclusion: The purpose of our tongue other than eating is to build up and edify each other, bring glory to HaShem’s creations and marvelous work and to Praise and bring glory to HaShem Himself for loving us and caring for all of his creation.